I loved last Easter weekend! In part because after a white-out snowstorm, we had some nice weather and the kidlets could have an Easter egg hunt outside! In part because we had some nice visits with people in the secular community, shared good food, conversation, and fun games! Also in part because we were not at my old church’s family camp.
A friend who heard the sermons at church informed me of the usual gender-policing, homophobia and general sex-negativity that was preached. This was a little different because of the way the girls reacted.
I grew up hearing the modesty talks, which were interspersed with gender policing. The message was generally: don’t be too attractive, but put in an effort to be attractive in a very specific way. God apparently wants women to have long hair, skirts, and wear pink. This year the supposed omniscient creator of the universe added to his list make-up and lip gloss. For girls to be godly women and pleasing to the old men, er, god, they NEED lip gloss.
I mean, how omniscient can the guy be if he needs make-up and lip gloss so he can tell the differences between the sexes? I wonder if this god is aware that most make-up and lip stuff has toxic heavy metals, or if he just doesn’t care.
Back at the girls’ dorm, there were tears and panicking. Many of the girls, especially the 11 and 12 year olds, don’t wear make-up. They thought god was angry at them for not being ‘feminine’ enough and calling them out on their “bad behaviour”.
Fortunately, some of the girls actually questioned the sermon. Here are some excerpts of a letter they sent to the elders.
[The first part was a list of things they agreed with like needing a spiritual authority, this is part of what they disagreed with]
“1. Lipgloss and excitement over clothes does not make a woman a woman. Neither does vanity. And we don’t think that God will bless us for either. (Girls were crying because they were worried they hadn’t worried about appearances as much as they should have.)
2. The way he brought up sex outside of marriage. That is between a person and God. The message felt condemning. And there are those who have come out of the world into our church and talking about it all over again may make them feel like it’s something they can’t let go of. Even though God has put that sin behind them.
3. The way he brought up homosexuality and used Leviticus. We don’t follow many of the laws in Leviticus. And Jesus said in John that it’s not our place to judge. Jesus taught love and the old ways were done away with. And we feel that if there were any homosexual people in the church that heard that they would no longer continue coming to church and they wouldn’t want to confide in their elders. …”
You go girls! (Except for the part about sex that isn’t between a cismale and cisfemale with a legal document being sin.)