I’ve spent more time on FaceBook recently. I love reading the articles different people post and I find myself posting too. Always with trepidation- do people want to see this? Am I annoying them? Is it polarizing or bridge building?
The past month I’ve posted a few articles on birth control and abortion. Its breaking a social taboo.
A high school acquaintance took offense when I was trying to explain why the morning after pill is not an abortion pill. I linked her name on a video that explained how the pill works since she still seemed so confused after a few attempts at clarifying the basic science behind it.
Her response was to publicly insult my friends, demand that I delete the post, report me to FB and send me a barrage of hostile and threatening emails. Her husband also sent me messages. I didn’t even finish reading anything from her husband since it was so hurtful and I’ve never met the guy. Even thinking about the first few lines he wrote is making my body shake.
She says (edited for length):
“..i’m the one offended by the post in the first place!!!! i’m not afraid of looking at things that are different…..you should have known from that first conversation that i whole heartedly disagree with everything you said….yet you keep trying to push your wrong beliefs on me….and i’m sick of it! just drop it! I DISAGREE WITH YOU….THATS ALL….SO LEAVE IT AT THAT!!! i look at all angles….not afraid to….lets sum everything up for you! i’m not uncomfortable about anything we’ve talked about…i do care about the truth but what you keep going on about isnt the truth (satan can do a good job at making you think its the truth)…seems like i’ve grown closer to God while you have grown away! IT MAKES ME EXTREMELY MAD !! dont ever guess what i value more cuz you have no idea! you said you looked at the claims of the company and went back further?? well did it ever occur to you that maybe looking back further they didnt know the real effects of the pill and now they do? which is why they say that it CAUSES ABORTIONS!!!! you dont know me so stop judging!! Satan is the father of lies…you dont think he cant use internet to fool people into believing what they think is the truth?? do you believe everything you read on the internet?? maybe you should read your bible more….that is the ultimate truth!! you dont know bounderies…you assume way too many things that is so far from the truth….you’ve pissed me off …obviously something isnt right in your thinking!
i’d appreciate it if you took that post down NOW…i’ve already reported it to facebook…i’m sick of this…..dont bother responding back! take a good read and i sure hope you can learn from it!”
This was one of the nicer messages. In other ones I was accused of some pretty horrible things. But it still bothers me. I was so worried that I was actually being a bully to people that I’ve pulled back a lot from talking to people, posting on FB and even writing in general.
However, I also received several private messages from women who have used the morning after pill or had abortions. They were too afraid to say publicly that they had. Some of these events happened a long time ago but they didn’t feel safe to tell me since I had gone to the same youth group as my enraged FB ‘friend’.
Part of me wants to keep speaking out on behalf of the people who are afraid to tell a friend they took a morning after pill. Part of me thinks I’m not strong enough myself to have hatred and ignorance thrown at me. I’ve been nicely bubbled from these sort of internet attacks. Any advice from others who have more experience?