If sex were sensual, sexy would be…

If sex were coupled with sensuality instead of power, our ideal of what makes sexy would be different.

Right now our culture deifies the young 20s, naughty-but-naive girl who is slightly inebriated.  Namely, someone easily taken advantage of. 

Without the power dynamic status quo, sexy woman would change to be  older, experienced, confident, sassy and encouraging.  (A friend told me her grandmother said she had the best sex of her life in her 70s)

The football jerk would no longer be the epitome of sexy manhood.  A man who can play piano or guitar would win hands down.  (Yes, pun intended)  Sexy would be equated with good listening skills and ability to read body language.  Plain aggression wouldn’t be mistaken for passion.

Basically, people could get more sexy with age- not less.  (Assuming age brings wisdom, compassion and self-understanding)

How would you change the definition of sexy?

3 thoughts on “If sex were sensual, sexy would be…

  1. “older, experienced, confident, sassy and encouraging”. Exactly.
    The scantily clad, well built, 20 somethings may be nice to look at (but I can’t remember why) but totally uninteresting beyond that. I vote for cougars, all the way.

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