I used to read a webzine called Boundless from Focus on the Family quite faithfully. Now it makes me feel sick.
I am staying at my parents house for a few days and the default browser is Boundless. I got sucked in and read an article by Dr. Alfred Mohler called “The End of Men”. Basically, he cites a few statistics such as 45% of law students are women and 1/3 medical students are as well. He mentions that most of the jobs lost in this recession in the states belonged to men.
Then he goes on about how this is translating into a matriarchal world. This means that men are not needed and manhood is fading from our culture. What! The fact that 1/3 of future doctors are probably female is supposed to be a direct attack on men? The fact that men are not lining up to take jobs working in a nursing home or other types of work less affected by an economic downturn is the work of dastardly feminists?
He states that the bible supports the role for men is the breadwinner. No verses are cited.
If this is his definition of manhood, I feel sorry for him. The fact that he is propagating his views to an audience of young adults trying to navigate between careers and family is scary.
I was in that camp a few years ago. I have a few years of college but no degree. I have two small children. If something happens to my husband I have few skills from which to earn enough money to keep our house. According to Mohler, this is ideal. According to logic, this is risky.
I see the tensions in marriages of people who subscribe to these narrow definitions of manhood and womanhood. Men who feel like they cannot measure up because they aren’t ‘good leaders’ and women who try to stifle their own gifts in order to be ‘submissive’. I see how it hurts marriages and will have to rant on this later.
But really, why is it so threatening to some men that some women have certain types of jobs? It sounds too much like terrorists throwing acid on girls for going to school.
Men are worth more than their pay cheque!
Women should not stifle themselves so that insecure people don’t feel threatened.
And I need to stop reading those articles.